Teacher Week 2013

Who inspires you ? Encourages you ?
Calls you to deepen your practice ? Or broaden a view ?
Someone you know in person, or dead a thousand years;
everyone has been deeply touched by someone at least once.

That spur to further practice came this life many times.

I thank all my teachers who gave a good example and shared their effort and vision.

As part of that gratitude, starting tomorrow, SIAOF will feature a different teacher each day for seven days.

Some have shown up here before, others are first timers.
Some are quite well known, others not so much.
All have intrigued and challenged, and most valuable, shown light on the way forward.

May you enjoy Teacher Week 2013 !

Photo from here: http://images.nationalgeographic.com/wpf/media-live/photos/000/002/cache/lightning-over-water_270_600x450.jpg

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Leaving Facebookistan

Leaving facebook is like taking down a large Lego house, a piece at a time.

Dissasembly of an online persona, now cyber-relic.

Of  250+ facebook friends, I only felt inclined to say goodbye to twenty or less. Some of those I knew from real-space. Almost all of that small group responded.

In deleting the rest, I saw many of who I had no recollection.

Many others I hadn’t spoken with or heard from in a year or more.

Eight or so blank avatars became visible, indicating deactivated accounts.

None had said goodbye.

I had spent a great deal of time in a noisy chatty cyber-hall of people whose names I couldn’t even recall. Almost every day. Sometimes for hours.

This is addiction: irrational, unwholesome, imbalanced, unhealthy.

As with other addictions, it grew gradually… and ended abruptly “cold turkey”.

Deleted 120 “Notes”, the facebook version of a blog post. Most came from teachers I appreciate. Some will reincarnate here during Teacher week coming up on SIAOF.

The body feels different – less tension in the morning, since none remains  from facebooking the night before.

This life has become simpler, ( mentally) quieter, calmer.

I spend more time talking to S., taking evening walks, and sky-gazing.

What was I thinking ?

Maybe that’s it: too much thinking ( and talking ) ;

not enough stepping back to see what was really going on.

Quiet reflection (at least about this) got crowded out.

How is Facebook Addiction Affecting Our Minds? #infographic
 

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For more along these likes: http://online.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/cyber.2012.0323

First pic from here: http://images.theage.com.au/2010/10/08/1973361/42

Infographic  from here: http://mashable.com/2012/11/03/facebook-addiction/

More: http://www.buzzle.com/articles/facebook-addiction.html

http://www.techaddiction.ca/facebook-addiction-test-symptoms.html

And more generally: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder

http://www.netaddiction.com/index.php?option=com_bfquiz&view=onepage&catid=46&Itemid=106

http://counsellingresource.com/lib/quizzes/net-addiction-testing/internet-addiction/

 

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Mother’s Day for the Black Sheep

March of 2003; my mother was in a very advanced stage of her final bout with cancer.

Had been visiting for a few days at her place.
It was 10:30 at night, and we had just finished watching a TV program on PBS.
My mother watched lying from her hospital-type incline bed in her bedroom at home.
I sat on the edge of the bed.

Did I do a good job ? “, she asked.
” You mean as a mother? ” I responded.

Did I do a good job ? “, she repeated, her expression serious but calm.
” I think you did the best job you knew how to do at the time. “

A memorable moment, unusual for its directness, simplicity, honesty.

Really, that’s it, isn’t it ?
We do the best that we know how to do at the time.

My mom and I had had a fairly contentious relationship.
Not a lot of Kodak moments.

What we did have was plenty of conflict, judgement, nonacceptance, disappointment, ego, more ego, anger and drama.

At the end of her life, the stories didn’t matter much, anymore.

Did I do a good job ? “

Without the early life that happened,
would there have been such a strong drive
to dive into spiritual practices,
to practice the Buddha’s Dharma,
and then finally fall awake ?

Without the early life that happened,
would this blog exist ?

Did I do a good job ? “

If that moment were to happen today,
my mom would get a different response.

Without hesitation, I would tell her:

” Ma, you did a perfect job. Thank you ! It was exactly what I needed! “

It was.

Anyone who reads this who feels that they had a ” less than perfect ” relationship with their mother… whatever that means to you, is it possible that whatever transpired has brought unconsidered benefit into life?

More compassion ?
More understanding ?
More strength ?

On this day to remember and thank all mothers ( it’s an actual US holiday )
I invite you to look into the richness of your experience,
the (sometime) complexity of this relationship,
and to see if perhaps more worth noticing awaits,
beyond the habitual patterns
of enshrouding thoughts
and familiar responses.

To all mothers, I bow in humble gratitude.

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This SIAOF post was originally published on Mother’s Day, 2012.

The photo of a sheep comes from here: http://internalsense.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Blacksheep1.jpg

Thanks to this site for the photo of the rose:

http://www.trickytech.org/2011/02/what-rose-color-speaks-on-valentyn.html

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Life After Facebook

It’s been over a week since I last logged in to Facebook.

For a former daily user, this gap stands nearly unprecedented.

Have had plenty to do in realspace.

Am reading actual books.
Working on home maintenance projects.
Getting to bed at a reasonable hour.
Talking to people in person.

How did I feel the need to ” LIKE ” all those cute pictures of cats ?
There are probably an unlimited supply of cute cat photos.
Someone else can like them now.

I am stepping away from ” LIKE button compulsion “.

Resembles letting go of TV in 2004.

Simply recognized something else as more worthwhile.

Facebook might offer some unique forms of mental stimulation…

… but none come to mind right now.

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First pic from here: http://ardvaark.net/assets/erasing-facebook.jpg

Second pic from here: http://i.imgur.com/eP9qI.jpg

For more along these lines:

http://quitfacebook.info/?cat=23

http://paulbernal.wordpress.com/2012/12/27/10-reasons-to-leave-facebook/

http://feliciacago.wordpress.com/2010/02/11/why-i-left-facebook/

http://www.ynaija.com/why-i-am-leaving-facebook/

http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/comment/2012/05/leaving-facebookistan.html

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/tinseltalk/2012/09/an-update-on-leaving-facebook-frankly-im-shocked-at-the-difference-its-made/

http://www.amazon.com/The-Fix-Damian-Thompson/dp/0007436106/ref=tmm_pap_title_0

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Kalama Sutta

THE KALAMA SUTTA

  Anguttara Nikaya III.65 – Kalama Sutta
- The Instruction to the Kalamas Translated from the Pali by Soma Thera For free distribution only, as a gift of Dhamma Read an alternate translation by Thanissaro Bhikkhu   From Kalama Sutta: The Buddha’s Charter of Free Inquiry, translated by Soma Thera,(Kandy: Buddhist Publication Society, 1981). Copyright ©1981 Buddhist Publication Society.  

(The Kalamas of Kesaputta go to see the Buddha)   Buddha Statue

1. I heard thus. Once the Blessed One, while wandering in the Kosala country with a large community of bhikkhus, entered a town of the Kalama people called Kesaputta. The Kalamas who were inhabitants of Kesaputta: “Reverend Gotama, the monk, the son of the Sakyans, has, while wandering in the Kosala country, entered Kesaputta. The good repute of the Reverend Gotama has been spread in this way: Indeed, the Blessed One is thus consummate, fully enlightened, endowed with knowledge and practice, sublime, knower of the worlds, peerless, guide of tamable men, teacher of divine and human beings, which he by himself has through direct knowledge understood clearly. He set forth the Dhamma, good in the beginning, good in the middle, good in the end, possessed of meaning and the letter, and complete in everything; and he proclaims the holy life that is perfectly pure. Seeing such consummate ones is good indeed.”

2. Then the Kalamas who were inhabitants of Kesaputta went to where the Blessed One was. On arriving there some paid homage to him and sat down on one side; some exchanged greetings with him and after the ending of cordial memorable talk, sat down on one side; some saluted him raising their joined palms and sat down on one side; some announced their name and family and sat down on one side; some without speaking, sat down on one side.

(The Kalamas of Kesaputta ask for guidance from the Buddha)

3. The Kalamas who were inhabitants of Kesaputta sitting on one side said to the Blessed One: “There are some monks and brahmins, venerable sir, who visit Kesaputta. They expound and explain only their own doctrines; the doctrines of others they despise, revile, and pull to pieces. Some other monks and brahmins too, venerable sir, come to Kesaputta. They also expound and explain only their own doctrines; the doctrines of others they despise, revile, and pull to pieces. Venerable sir, there is doubt, there is uncertainty in us concerning them. Which of these reverend monks and brahmins spoke the truth and which falsehood?”

(The criterion for rejection)

4. “It is proper for you, Kalamas, to doubt, to be uncertain; uncertainty has arisen in you about what is doubtful. Come, Kalamas. Do not go upon what has been acquired by repeated hearing; nor upon tradition; nor upon rumor; nor upon what is in a scripture; nor upon surmise; nor upon an axiom; nor upon specious reasoning; nor upon a bias towards a notion that has been pondered over; nor upon another’s seeming ability; nor upon the consideration, ‘The monk is our teacher.’ Kalamas, when you yourselves know: ‘These things are bad; these things are blameable; these things are censured by the wise; undertaken and observed, these things lead to harm and ill,’ abandon them.

(Greed, hate, and delusion)

5. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does greed appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his harm, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being given to greed, and being overwhelmed and vanquished mentally by greed, this man takes life, steals, commits adultery, and tells lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his harm and ill?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

6. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does hate appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his harm, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being given to hate, and being overwhelmed and vanquished mentally by hate, this man takes life, steals, commits adultery, and tells lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his harm and ill?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

7. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does delusion appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his harm, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being given to delusion, and being overwhelmed and vanquished mentally by delusion, this man takes life, steals, commits adultery, and tells lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his harm and ill?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

8. “What do you think, Kalamas? Are these things good or bad?” — “Bad, venerable sir” — “Blameable or not blameable?” — “Blameable, venerable sir.” — “Censured or praised by the wise?” — “Censured, venerable sir.” — “Undertaken and observed, do these things lead to harm and ill, or not? Or how does it strike you?” — “Undertaken and observed, these things lead to harm and ill. Thus it strikes us here.”

9. “Therefore, did we say, Kalamas, what was said thus, ‘Come Kalamas.
Do not go upon what has been acquired
by repeated hearing;
nor upon tradition;
nor upon rumour;
nor upon what is in a scripture;
nor upon surmise;
nor upon an axiom;
nor upon specious reasoning;
nor upon a bias towards a notion that has been pondered over;
nor upon another’s seeming ability;
nor upon the consideration, “The monk is our teacher.”
Kalamas, when you yourselves know: “These things are bad; these things are blameable; these things are censured by the wise; undertaken and observed, these things lead to harm and ill,” abandon them.’  

(The criterion for acceptance)

10. “Come, Kalamas. Do not go upon what has been acquired by repeated hearing; nor upon tradition; nor upon rumour; nor upon what is in a scripture; nor upon surmise; nor upon an axiom; nor upon specious reasoning; nor upon a bias towards a notion that has been pondered over; nor upon another’s seeming ability; nor upon the consideration, ‘The monk is our teacher.’ Kalamas, when you yourselves know: ‘These things are good; these things are not blameable; these things are praised by the wise; undertaken and observed, these things lead to benefit and happiness,’ enter on and abide in them.

(Absence of greed, hate, and delusion)

11. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does absence of greed appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his benefit, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being not given to greed, and being not overwhelmed and not vanquished mentally by greed, this man does not take life, does not steal, does not commit adultery, and does not tell lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his benefit and happiness?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

12. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does absence of hate appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his benefit, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being not given to hate, and being not overwhelmed and not vanquished mentally by hate, this man does not take life, does not steal, does not commit adultery, and does not tell lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his benefit and happiness?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

13. “What do you think, Kalamas? Does absence of delusion appear in a man for his benefit or harm?” — “For his benefit, venerable sir.” — “Kalamas, being not given to delusion, and being not overwhelmed and not vanquished mentally by delusion, this man does not take life, does not steal, does not commit adultery, and does not tell lies; he prompts another too, to do likewise. Will that be long for his benefit and happiness?” — “Yes, venerable sir.”

14. “What do you think, Kalamas? Are these things good or bad?” — “Good, venerable sir.” — “Blameable or not blameable?” — “Not blameable, venerable sir.” — “Censured or praised by the wise?” — “Praised, venerable sir.” — “Undertaken and observed, do these things lead to benefit and happiness, or not? Or how does it strike you?” — “Undertaken and observed, these things lead to benefit and happiness. Thus it strikes us here.”

15. “Therefore, did we say, Kalamas, what was said thus, ‘Come Kalamas. Do not go upon what has been acquired by repeated hearing; nor upon tradition; nor upon rumour; nor upon what is in a scripture; nor upon surmise; nor upon an axiom; nor upon specious reasoning; nor upon a bias towards a notion that has been pondered over; nor upon another’s seeming ability; nor upon the consideration, “The monk is our teacher.” Kalamas, when you yourselves know: “These things are good; these things are not blameable; these things are praised by the wise; undertaken and observed, these things lead to benefit and happiness,” enter on and abide in them.’   (The Four Exalted Dwellings)

16. “The disciple of the Noble Ones, Kalamas, who in this way is devoid of coveting, devoid of ill will, undeluded, clearly comprehending and mindful, dwells, having pervaded, with the thought of amity, one quarter; likewise the second; likewise the third; likewise the fourth; so above, below, and across; he dwells, having pervaded because of the existence in it of all living beings, everywhere, the entire world, with the great, exalted, boundless thought of amity that is free of hate or malice.   “He lives, having pervaded, with the thought of compassion, one quarter; likewise the second;likewise the third; likewise the fourth; so above, below, and across; he dwells, having pervaded because of the existence in it of all living beings, everywhere, the entire world, with the great, exalted, boundless thought of compassion that is free of hate or malice.   “He lives, having pervaded, with the thought of gladness, one quarter; likewise the second; likewise the third; likewise the fourth; so above, below, and across; he dwells, having pervaded because of the existence in it of all living beings, everywhere, the entire world, with the great, exalted, boundless thought of gladness that is free of hate or malice.   “He lives, having pervaded, with the thought of equanimity, one quarter; likewise the second;likewise the third; likewise the fourth; so above, below, and across; he dwells, having pervaded because of the existence in it of all living beings, everywhere, the entire world, with the great, exalted, boundless thought of equanimity that is free of hate or malice.

(The Four Solaces)

17. The disciple of the Noble Ones, Kalamas, who has such a hate-free mind, such a malice-free mind, such an undefiled mind, and such a purified mind, is one by whom four solaces are found here and now.

‘Suppose there is a hereafter and there is a fruit, result, of deeds done well or ill. Then it is possible that at the dissolution of the body after death, I shall arise in the heavenly world, which is possessed of the state of bliss.’ This is the first solace found by him.
‘Suppose there is no hereafter and there is no fruit, no result, of deeds done well or ill. Yet in this world, here and now, free from hatred, free from malice, safe and sound, and happy, I keep myself.’ This is the second solace found by him.
‘Suppose evil (results) befall an evil-doer. I, however, think of doing evil to no one. Then, how can ill (results) affect me who do no evil deed?’ This is the third solace found by him.
‘Suppose evil (results) do not befall an evil-doer. Then I see myself purified in any case.’ This is the fourth solace found by him.

“The disciple of the Noble Ones, Kalamas, who has such a hate-free mind, such a malice-free mind, such an undefiled mind, and such a purified mind, is one by whom, here and now, these four solaces are found.”

“So it is, Blessed One. So it is, Sublime one. The disciple of the Noble Ones, venerable sir, who has such a hate-free mind, such a malice-free mind, such an undefiled mind, and such a purified mind, is one by whom, here and now, four solaces are found.

“‘Suppose there is a hereafter and there is a fruit, result, of deeds done well or ill. Then it is possible that at the dissolution of the body after death, I shall arise in the heavenly world, which is possessed of the state of bliss.’ This is the first solace found by him.
“‘Suppose there is no hereafter and there is no fruit, no result, of deeds done well or ill. Yet in this world, here and now, free from hatred, free from malice, safe and sound, and happy, I keep myself.’ This is the second solace found by him.
“‘Suppose evil (results) befall an evil-doer. I, however, think of doing evil to no one. Then, how can ill (results) affect me who do no evil deed?’ This is the third solace found by him.
“‘Suppose evil (results) do not befall an evil-doer. Then I see myself purified in any case.’ This is the fourth solace found by him.

“The disciple of the Noble Ones, venerable sir, who has such a hate-free mind, such a malice-free mind, such an undefiled mind, and such a purified mind, is one by whom, here and now, these four solaces are found.
“Marvellous, venerable sir! Marvellous, venerable sir! As if, venerable sir, a person were to turn face upwards what is upside down, or to uncover the concealed, or to point the way to one who is lost or to carry a lamp in the darkness, thinking, ‘Those who have eyes will see visible objects,’ so has the Dhamma been set forth in many ways by the Blessed One. We, venerable sir, go to the Blessed One for refuge, to the Dhamma for refuge, and to the Community of Bhikkhus for refuge. Venerable sir, may the Blessed One regard us as lay followers who have gone for refuge for life, from today.”

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Reference link: http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/soma/wheel008.html

For a closely related reference: “A Look at the Kalama Sutta,” by Bhikkhu Bodhi.: http://www.accesstoinsight.org/canon/anguttara/an3-65b.html

For a commentary on spiritual freedom: http://mettarefuge.wordpress.com/2011/06/12/sacred-scriptures-and-gurus-are-not-the-final-authority/

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12 Pitfalls After That First Glimpse by Scott Kiloby ( via aalif )

[ Sometimes, some things are just "in the air". Have had some ideas for posts about Waking Down /After Awakening. Scott Kiloby knocks it out of the ballpark. Many thanks to the superaalifragilistic blog here on WordPress for this amazing guest post, reposted. Enjoy !]

12 Pitfalls After That First Glimpse

Posted on April 26, 2013 by

Bridge To Enlightenment

One of the rare writings I have cherished and revisited many times over the last many months has been a piece by nondual teacher Scott Kiloby on the long (and confusing) phase between initial seeing and full liberation. Little is written about this subject, and Kiloby has some truly eye-opening insights to share. I urge you to read the entire piece called ‘After The Fall’ on Scott’s website here. Meanwhile, an extract on 12 things to watch out for in this phase. Download it for your weekend read, you will treasure it for a long time. 

[EXTRACT FROM 'AFTER THE FALL']

If you will allow me to use language freely….

These days, it seems that more and more people are experiencing shifts in perception or initial realizations of Oneness or no self, much like a satori experience in Zen.  The seeing or event isn’t always accompanied by bells and whistles.  It isn’t always one grand moment where absolutely everything drops away into a deep recognition of Oneness.  It may be more subtle than that, like a shift in perception that quietly dawns upon you.

But I’ve been around the awakening scene long enough to know that these experiences aren’t usually the end of the seeking entirely and that there is often more to see.  Yet the “more” isn’t as much about seeking some later point in one’s story.  The “more” is actually “less.”  Stuff falls away gradually after these events, eventually leaving one surrendered in and as the flow of life, “living naturally in the present moment,” as they say.

Before one stabilizes, there is often a lot of stuff, emotional and psychological stuff, and even leftover seeking that arises.  I call this “oscillation,” which is the seeming movement back and forth between the sense of “I am my thoughts and emotions and sensations” to “I am not these things, but they still arise.”

The road to freedom is often bumpy, confusing, and filled with doubts, shadows, and old stories of deficiency, “I’m not good enough” or “I’m weak” or “I’m unlovable.”   Somehow the momentum of this old way of being in the world wants to stick around, almost as if it is hanging on for dear life.

And teachers aren’t immune from it either.  I’ve seen in myself and virtually every other teacher things like competition, jealousy, shadows, fundamentalism, control, and at the more extreme end greed, abuse, and even cult-like behavior. […]

Here are some other things I’ve seen through the years. By just spotting them in yourself, you can see through them.

1) Avoid beliefs like “I’m not there yet” as well as “I’ve arrived.”
Both are often mental landing points of the ego.  Life is fluid and ever-changing.  The ones who claim to have arrived, either implicitly or explicitly, are often holding onto a belief that life is static and that there is someone who can “arrive” at life or even awakening.  Or perhaps the belief is “there is no one to arrive, I have arrived at that realization.”  It’s a subtle, backdoor way of saying the same thing.  And the ones that claim “I’m not there yet” are often still believing in the story of someone who can awaken, still seeking some ultimate, fictitious point in the future.  Once these beliefs are dispelled, it all gets a lot clearer.  How do I know these are beliefs….?  Because they were beliefs I’ve held, but couldn’t see.  And that’s not a statement that I have now “arrived.”

2) Watch for selective memory
Once there is a recognition that this moment is all there is, or some similar insight, it can be easy to assume that all the inquiry, methods, meetings you attended, and books you read had absolutely nothing to do with that.  It can feel like all of that is some faint memory.  It’s then tempting to want to tell everyone else who is doing inquiry, engaging in methods, and attending meetings and reading books to “STOP, JUST STOP.”  But could you just stop?  If you could have, you would have and all those inquiries, methods, meetings and books would not have been necessary.

There is a whole debate happening around whether methods are helpful or not.  Why not simplify it down to this:  methods seem to work for some and not for others.  That takes the debate right out of it.  It sucks for the ego when it can’t be right anymore.  Can any of us know what is best for another?  If you begin teaching or just helping a friend and you say, “All there is, is liberation, there’s nowhere to go, nothing to do, and no one to do it,” apparently there WAS something to do i.e., listen to your words or attend your meeting.  If there were truly nothing to do and nowhere to go, no one would show up and you would not need to utter a single word about “what is” or “liberation.”

When awakening dawns, and we assume that inquiry, methods, meditation, or whatever had nothing to do with it, it’s like a guy going into a donut shop.  He eats one donut but it doesn’t make him full.  Then he eats another, then another.  Still not full.  Then after the 12th donut, he eats a muffin and says, “Damn, why did I eat all those donuts, when I could have just gotten full from eating this muffin?” We can never know how methods and inquiries are or are not helpful for others.  We can only speak what worked for us, and let the cards fall where they may.

3) Avoid denying relativity
First of all, how can you deny relativity and how would you actually do this?  When you speak or think, those thoughts divide reality up into parts.  It doesn’t matter whether the thoughts are really profound or really dumb.  They are thoughts.  The very act of denying relativity is a thought.  Pretending to be beyond relativity is a relative thought that divides life into Absolute and relative.  This writing is a relative viewpoint, and not objectively true.  It won’t even resonate with every reader.  The suffering comes from believing that your thoughts are representing a true, accurate, and objective picture of reality.  That’s the rub.

Once you begin seeing that you aren’t thinking objectively, relativity is fun, like a play. Transcending relativity is only important when you see relativity as a problem. And of course that problem is created through thinking, which is relative. Trying to eradicate pronouns or any reference to yourself or others may simply mean that you still experience what you believe to be an objective self that must censor itself.  We are always playing around with language.  But rearranging our thoughts isn’t necessarily a sign of awakening from identifying with thought. It’s just rearrangement.  And we will rearrange thoughts in any number of ways to find some landing point that divides a self against the others.  Recognizing an unshakeable silence is not personal.  Yet, we love to make it personal, like “I’ve recognized silence and you haven’t it.”  It’s another rearrangement of thoughts, an investment in some objective self.  What is there to transcend when the play of life is seen to be empty, and not actually full of real divisions?  Love it, or hate it, but at least see it as a play.

4) Keep it simple
This relates to the relativity part above. Anything you perceive as right/wrong, good/bad, enlightened/unenlightened, valuable/valueless about yourself, others, the world or reality isn’t there objectively.  It’s your thoughts.  Think away if you wish, but don’t be confused about this simple, basic point.  Of course, that goes for everything said here.

5) Avoid Dangling Carrots, Then Investigate
If you read somewhere that someone seems to have had a deeper recognition than you have, assume it’s a dangling carrot first, then investigate. People have a way of wording things that makes it look as if they are special. When they speak of stages and levels, notice that they always place themselves near the top of the stages or levels (or they place THEIR teacher there).  And this is often just a self-centered way of saying, “I’m more special.”  They may have added some belief about themselves that subtly gives them a sense of being higher or more awakened then others. Don’t fall for it.

If it pulls you into seeking into the future, it’s a carrot, a mirage, a belief that there is something presently wrong that you have to get away from or move beyond.  But do investigate.  It may be that this person has stabilized (so to speak) and is not experiencing some of the sticky points mentioned here.  Find out exactly what they are talking about and what beliefs were seen through.  Ask them.  Don’t assume you already know the answers.  It may be that they are not offering a carrot to chase into the future, but rather a deeper recognition or seeing through of some belief that many people carry around.  You may find that it’s not a matter of reaching some later stage, but more like the falling away of something believed and held to be reality.  Awakening is like that.  It’s not that you gain more. It’s that you lose.  And what you lose was not reality.  It was just a belief you were carrying.

6) Avoid the Belief that all concepts are false
That, itself, is a concept.  If you look, it is not that concepts are the issue, it’s that there is a sense of self that grasps after them.  When there is no more grasping, thought is seen to be beautiful and very much a part of human experience.  Like everything else, it is welcomed, and not made into some enemy that needs to be eradicated. Thoughts may quiet naturally, but that’s just because one loses interest in one’s story, drama and fixed conceptions of reality and even one’s story of being awakened from the story, the drama, and all fixed conceptions of reality.  What’s left?  …The capacity to express and think or not, whatever arises.  Any way you slice it, everything we say is a concept, including concepts about silence or non-conceptuality, and even the concepts that try to eradicate other concepts.

7) Be Transparent (tell on yourself at all costs)
Whether you begin teaching or helping others or not, the tendency after the fall is to be blind to the movements of self that are still operating.  And the tendency, even when you see them, is to downplay them and only speak of the plush bliss or infinite peace or beyondness or radical freedom that you have come to know.  For example, you aren’t likely to talk about how unblissful it was to puke your guts up the other night after getting food poisoning or subtle feelings of inadequacy that still pop up in your marriage.  ”All that messy humanness” is irrelevant.  But how irrelevant is it?  Is this just the mind hiding behind a belief, “I’m awakened” or even “there is no one to awaken” or some other belief in transcendence?  If you have transcended all human messiness, why are you still getting upset in certain areas of relationship?  Why are you still trying to prove something to other humans, even that you have transcended everything?  Isn’t that still human stuff?  Do turtles brag about transcending turtlehood?  Do birds try to make personal claims about recognizing the air more than their fellow birds?  Stick with the simple seeing that no one cares nearly as much about your awakening story or insights as you do.  Share them freely, but see they are just part of the story of you, even the parts that talk of transcendence.  […]

8) Virtually everything comes down to fear
If you don’t know what is disturbing you, assume it’s fear and just feel it, without story.  Fear of anger, fear of fear, fear of intimacy, fear of being wrong, fear of death, fear of uncertainty, fear of being nobody, fear of not being loved, etc, etc.  Just feeling fear directly, without story, makes stabilization happen more smoothly, without the need for a dramatic “dark knight of the soul” process.  Sometimes it looks like something other than fear.  For example, getting really busy intellectualizing a grand scheme to explain intricate levels of awakening, discomfort with real intimacy with others, or a reaction against what someone says doesn’t always appear like fear at first, until you check into the body.  And there it is.

9) See through body identification
One can see “no self” when it comes to the story or pattern of thoughts and emotions, but still have a very visceral sense that “I am this body.”  Body identification accounts for a lot of the struggle experienced after the fall.  Get with someone who has seen through body identification.  It clears up a lot, especially the very subtle movement to resist uncomfortable sensations as if the sensation is you.

10) Look for any place where you are rejecting
The ego can be seen as rejection of emotions, thoughts, views, experiences, and other people.  This can continue on after the fall.  Wherever you are rejecting, notice that it is often out of fear and a continued belief in a separate self. You are afraid, even if you are trying to claim “there is no me.”  Admit it to yourself and let the emotion, all emotions, be as they are without story, facing them fully, seeing that there arise and fall and that they cannot kill you or even harm you. They are temporary energies.  That’s it.  What often trips people up after the fall is an inability to be with the most painful emotions, a subtle rejecting of your own experience. Open to it. If you have seen there is no self at the core, there is nothing to be afraid of with regard to emotions.

11) Trust your own experience:
This is one of the hallmarks of the period “after the fall.”  This is about your happiness and freedom, which can only really be found in your own experience.  Eventually, you will come to see that there is no authority.  You will come to listen to other views, and take them in, while remaining true to your own experience, finding your own voice, and letting awakening unfold for you in its own way.  If you find yourself still following every word of a teacher, re-examine that belief.  This includes what I’m saying here.  Don’t trust me. Look into these things for yourself.  Everything written here is second hand knowledge.

12) Avoid extreme views
If you find yourself uttering any opposites as if one is true and the other is not, let that be an alarm bell that lets you know you are still possibly holding onto beliefs about the experience of awakening, still trying to land somewhere.  As Buddha said, “Don’t be attached to conceptions of self or no self.”  Don’t be attached to your ideas about awakening. They are YOUR ideas, that’s all. This includes all opposites.

- Scott Kiloby

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Repost from here: http://superaalifragilistic.wordpress.com/2013/04/26/12-pitfalls-after-awakening/

Original site here: http://kiloby.com/index.php

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Where the Rubber Hits the Road

Am a hopeless nondualist.

No “real” self image.
No self found separate from experience.
No objects at all separate from consciousness.

It just makes sense.
That, and nondual views accord with the entirety of experience thus far.

So…

If everything is consciousness,
the lila of the Absolute,
Brahma dreaming,
etc.,
then there is nothing
to be done
by anyone.

Period.

OK !

So here is the crux.

What happens when someone falls ill ?

One of the regulars at the midweek meditation sit I lead
shared that she just received a diagnosis of a grave illness.

All of a sudden,
it’s serious.

Someone’s life is one the line.

And practice reverts to … what ?

Energy healing.

Prayer circles.

Universal love,
spoken in the language of separation.

May the highest good manifest,
without exception.

May she be happy, peaceful and at ease.

How may I help?

How may I send help
from any direction, modality, vector whatsoever ?

How may love be allowed to manifest ? No exceptions.
Even through the false appearance of doing ?

Love will find a way.

And K. will know that she is loved.

In this apparent world
of separation
illness and
confusion.

OM AH HUM

K. may you find all that you need
may this illness flow into practice without impediment,
may you be at ease with all that arises.

LOVE/
REIKI/
PRAYER/
NONLOCALHEALING/
HEALINGTOUCH/
QUANTUMTOUCH/
QUANTUMENTRAINMENT/
MEDICINEBUDDHA/
LOVE

! Love !

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First pic from here : http://deuelco.files.wordpress.com/2009/05/where-the-rubber-hits-the-road.jpg

Second pic from here : http://www.contemplative.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Rubber-and-Road.jpg

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CISPA BLACKOUT MONDAY

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Earth Day : A Contemplation

[ Written in honor of the Earth for Earth Day; Monday  April 22 ]

I have no ability to create
Even the smallest part of what this life requires
Yet through each moment
The Earth sustains all life upon it.

The Earth provides everything I need.

This body of mine is composed of elements of the Earth, water, air and energy.

I will look at each
until I see completely
how from birth through death, moment by moment
Life is completely dependent and supported by the Earth.

The Earth elements

This body is made of the elements of the Earth’s crust.
Without these elements, this body does not exist.

No body, no people,no animals, no plants.

Carbon, Oxygen, Nitrogen, Hydrogen, Calcium and Phosphorous
These 6 Make up 99% of this body
Trace metals make up the last 1%

I have done nothing to create a single atom of this body
All the building blocks were here long before I was born
Before my grandparents were born
Before the first humans walked upon the Earth.

Water

This body is between 60 and 70 % water.
Without water, in a few days I will die.

Drinking, bathing, washing, flushing, swimming, fishing and growing crops.
Water lies at the center of human life

Our life begins in water
For nine months we live in water, protected by water,
nourished by water.
The brain is 75 % water.
Water courses through the body with every heartbeat,
and falls away with each tear drop.

I can not create a single drop of water to drink
The water was here before I was born
Before my grandparents were born
Before the first humans swam in the waters of the Earth.

Air

We breath about 12 times a minute, more that 6 million times every year.
Without air, we lose consciousness in moments, and die soon after.

The Earth’s atmosphere filters the sun, carries the clouds,
and connects us with everything that breaths and transpires.

The breath I breath in was breathed out by the person next to me,
by the trees and green plants outside,
by every other human, green plant and animal that ever lived.

I can not create a single gulp of air to breath
The air was all here before I was born
Before my grandparents were born,
Before the first humans breathed the air of the Earth.

Energy

Without energy there is no life.

The position of the Earth flying through space
Orbits the Sun in a very narrow path,
Earth’s temperate climate
Has much to do with it’s distance to the Sun.

The energy of the Sun,
tempered by the place of the Earth in space,
Comes to us as heat,
as light,
as food,
as fuel.

Our body converts these to chi,
So we move, perceive, digest, breath, talk, remember.

Energy is not ours;
it never belongs to anyone.
Energy endlessly transforms from one form to another,
Continuing as long as we live.

The elements of the body,
Water of the body,
Air in the breath,
Energy itself
All are on loan from the Earth.

How many generations have been born,
lived taking what they needed,
then died,
Giving everything back that was on loan from the Earth
Since the first humans appeared ?

I see that everything that permits life,
Everything that supports life,
Everything that promotes life,
This life,
The life of my parents and grandparents,
my friends,
my children,
The life of every living thing,
Even from before the first humans appeared,
Comes from, by and through the Earth.

For just this moment,
I shall remember my home planet with gratitude,
I shall recall with humble awe
The beauty that these eyes have seen,
The delight that this body has known,
Every experience that ever arose,
Came through the unqualified generosity of the Earth
And the cornucopia of life that lives upon the Earth.

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” On Zen ” by Daio Kokushi

“On Zen,” by Daio Kokushi

There is a reality even prior to heaven and earth;

Indeed, it has no form, much less a name;

Eyes fail to see it; It has no voice for ears to detect;

To call it Mind or Buddha violates its nature,

For it then becomes like a visionary flower in the air;

It is not Mind, nor Buddha;

Absolutely quiet, and yet illuminating in a mysterious way,

It allows itself to be perceived only by the clear-eyed.

It is Dharma truly beyond form and sound;

It is Tao having nothing to do with words.

Wishing to entice the blind,

The Buddha has playfully let words escape his golden mouth;

Heaven and earth are ever since filled with entangling briars.

O my good worthy friends gathered here,

If you desire to listen to the thunderous voice of the Dharma,

Exhaust your words, empty your thoughts,

For then you may come to recognize this One Essence.

Says Hui the Brother, “The Buddha’s Dharma

Is not to be given up to mere human sentiments.”

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Translated by D. T. Suzuki, and available for download in the following free ebook: <a href=”http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/manual_zen.pdf“>Manual of Zen Buddhism.

This repost comes from here: http://buddhaspace.blogspot.com.au/2013/03/on-zen-by-daio-kokushi.html

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